These thoughts and feelings align with the term called "Imposter Syndrome". It is defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. 'Imposters' suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence, according to the Harvard Business Review. I recently had moments where my "impostering" tried to overcome me. I was sitting at a "virtual" table with other practitioners who I admire giving feedback about ways to enhance services in our field. I found myself thinking of who else instead of me should be sharing their ideas, discrediting my ability, accomplishments and insight all at the same time. I compared my career, my practice history to those who I believed were more worthy of this opportunity. These thoughts led to the impostering that I believe plagues many of us. Once you recognize the signs, try out a few tips below to put that impostering in its place:
Here are 3 ways I personally combat imposter syndrome that seems to show up at the most inopportune times:
Can you think of any other ways to stop that IMPOSTERing in its tracks?
You hear it constantly....
"You should be getting paid for this!"
"Why aren't you doing this for a living?"
"When are you going to start that... (fill in the blank)?"
How do I know you hear it constantly? Well, because I've heard it over and over and over myself. From countless people. I wish I was paid for everytime I actually heard each and everyone of those phrases (a girl could dream🤔). I even recall each response I would give to those questions too. I bet you have some of same rebuttals to their queries. Well, I'm going to be honest with you. I know you should be getting paid for it. I know you really could be doing this for a living. What I want really want to know is "What is stopping you? What are you waiting for?"
I know what would stop me. I know exactly what I was waiting for. I was waiting for perfection. The perfect time, the perfect day, the perfect amount of money, the perfect background, the perfect amount of help, the perfect approval, the perfect amount of confidence.
Look at me, I just started this blog. Something I have been wanting to do FOREVER! But perfection and analyzing the best way to launch kept me stuck.
What about you? Has your bank account reflected you waiting on perfection to finally get paid to do what you'd do for free? Have you analyzed so much that you can't move?
No more. Just start. If I can do it... so can you!